Iris

Looking through your own eyes is very, very hard. I always wonder what other people see when they look at each other, hell, I wonder what people see when they look period. 

Something most people don’t know is that most alcohols (liquors) are only a few molecules from the chemical composite of the truth serum. Crazy right? I know.

It’s probably obvious to most of you reading this that it’s a “Hey I bet he’s drunk/clearly alcohol was involved in this” post. Well, touche salesmen because I’ll buy that for a dollar.

The biggest point or purpose of this is true wondering. When you look at someone you love how do you know they look back at you the same way? I almost wonder if love is a special vision given to those special people, whether through chemical disposition or through robocop/predator like technology.

Scientists say that when you see someone you’re attracted to your pupils dilate. In retrospect,  I have seen others through my own eyes for which it is like I walked out of an eye doctor appointment in those Ray Charles glasses, you know the ones. It’s very hard to imagine someone has ever looked at me with what I will only refer to as the “Puss in boots” eyes. I hope that there is a day where I can see myself through the eyes of another person the way they see me but if I can’t I can always see myself through my own.

Have you ever heard the term “Crazy in love”? Ironically, it’s a very true statement because “When in love, your body produces mood-altering chemicals that can override the part of your brain that governs rational thought,” explains Helen Fisher, PhD, anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love. It’s weird the things you find out only after everything has gone down and you feel like a villain.

Guys, let me talk to you for a minute. Ladies, please leave the room, okay? Okay. I know you probably think she’s out there doing all sorts of things, lying, going behind your back, and screwing you over. I know it with a first hand perspective. Sometimes it’s better to be wrong and, no, I’m not saying you should stay with her because she is but I am saying that sometimes it’s better not to know. Love is a complicated action and it requires a lot of avoidance in my opinion. Swallow your pride sometimes gentlemen and shut the fuck up sometimes. With that said, I’m not telling you to be a pussy or a push over during every argument. Pick your outs and know when you’re correct and sometimes even when you’re right, be able to admit you’re wrong for the sake of the relationship. 

Ahem…..

Ladies, please come back and send the men out of the room.

Okay they’re gone?

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard you say that you want a nice, funny guy. Let’s be honest, if that was the truth there would be so many happy neckbeards out there in the world and we both know that’s not how life works. Check it ladies, I reamed out the guys and you need a reality check too, ready? Hope so. Ladies, you make a big deal out of a lot of things, you avoid us, and you really do go out of your way to circumvent conversation and make men seem like the bad guy even when you yourself know where the fault lies. Apologies are band-aids to a trauma victim in certain situations. Sure, the men might go and yell and flip some shit for a few hours but you always know where and when we’re going to come back. Here’s your one bit of kryptonite, we never know when or if you’re coming back and you’re more likely to go farther and out of your way to hurt us. Every cut you give us is a gash in our soul. 

Ever get with the guy who’s an asshole to you and wonder why he’s that way? Chances are a woman made him that way. I can already hear what you’re saying, what about all the women who have been screwed over by men? I’m not stupid, it’s a two way street.

This goes out to the ladies and the gentlemen: Honesty is the best policy. Whatever you’ve done, just tell them. Truth may hurt but lies are like a million lashes from a cat o’ nine tails. They make people bad and this is coming from a person who believes that people are inherently evil. If, after being honest, shit does not work then it wasn’t meant to work or what you did was a bad enough factor to which it wasn’t going to work in the first place.

If I was to tell you no to do things you’ll regret that would be like telling you never to make a mistake in your life, it’s impossible…but when you make a mistake, when you have that regret…do something about it. Never give up. When you know what you want, when you see what you can’t have…walk up and take it. The only thing that will ever hold your life back is you. 

Words are the wind and actions are brick walls and I don’t know about you but I’d rather chase something I’m never able to catch than find something I’ll keep running into over and over.

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